People are more likely to fall intensely in love when they are anxious and their self-esteem is lowest.. Feeling inadequate, unhappy, and empty are virtual prerequisites for falling and staying desperately in love; at least temporarily, the ecstasy of desire seems to cure everything that ails you. There is a connection between aversive states of mind -- loneliness, shame, even grief and horror -- and a propensity to feel overwhelming passion; this is one reason why romances blossom in times of war or natural disasters, as well as during the private disasters of our everyday lives. Jeanne Safer
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In the article below, the author describes how people become more prone to falling in love when they are anxious and their self-esteem is lowest. In fact, the author suggests that one of the reasons people fall in love so intensely is because of what he refers to as “the ecstasy of desire.” The author states that this ecstasy has a tendency to cure everything that ails you. Since you can’t be cured of your anxieties, the only way to get past them is through desire. If you’re not willing to feel desire then you’re not really human.

Source: The Golden Condom: And Other Essays On Love Lost And Found

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